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Our First Baby | Our First Day Home Together.

Our First Baby | Our First Day Home Together. 9 months of planning, reading, on-line, baby classes, delivery and that first car ride together. None of this planning had prepared us for our first day home alone.

We arrived safely and daughter and mother fell asleep on our bed.

We have a large extended family, all visited our new daughter at the Hospital. Upon arrival at home the phone started ringing and within a few hours we had, Grand Mothers both sides, Mothers and Fathers both sides, Aunts and Uncles who all decided they should come and help us out. They brought food and gifts and wanted to hold the Baby.

I felt like our daughter was being passed around like a sack of Potatoes from one relative to another.

The advise started from the woman for my wife, breast feeding the Grand Mothers, not so sure about that. Breast pumps how to use them, make sure your breasts are stimulated before you try breast feeding. One relative compared this event to how cows are milked. You have to stimulate your breasts. Okay my wife, her breasts are engorged with with milk and any conversation on this topics resulted in her milk coming down.

The men in our Family, a lot of suggestions for me as the new Father. You have heard it all, this is a big responsibility financially, have you started a college fund, was one? Please. Are you planning any more children? Well to be honest this was a surprise baby. Not a bad thing. Planning another, we just got home.

My wife had planned to take 9 weeks off work. One of our relatives is a therapist. Oh you need more time off work. The first two years of your child’s life needs to be with the mother. This sets the foundation for your child’s growth and social development. Separation from mother will cause stress for the Baby once you go back to work. We have that covered we have a Nanny.

The idea of us having a Nanny care for our Daughter threw the entire family into a fit. You are going to leave your Daughter with a stranger? Please don’t get me wrong, we love our entire Family and for them this was a Family event filled with love and kindness. It was time for them to leave, early evening, the three of us are exhausted.

Now we are ready for that first night alone?

Our First Baby | The Ride Home From The Hospital

Time passes and my wife is back in her room and the time has come for Father to take our Daughter from the delivery room to be with mom. The next day it was time for the three of us to head home.

Many thanks to all the nurses and staff, my wife is doing remarkable after having a cesarean section, sore and tired she rides the wheel chair with baby in arms as we leave the hospital.

Our First Baby | The Ride Home From The Hospital was like most events for new parents another experience no matter how well you have prepared for it, you are ready perhaps not prepared for dealing with the bay car seat.

I had practiced dealing with this baby car seat, making sure it was facing the right direction, was it attached correctly, check the seat belt 3 times. All this training and practice, okay for sure this is different now having to place the new love of your life in a car seat. Done we are off.

With Mom and Daughter safely secured in the back seat of our car we headed the 11 miles to our home. Funny how having a baby in your car changes your driving habits, a little slower, looking out for on coming cars, and yes my lovely wife offering a lot of back seat driving suggestions.

Our daughter within a few minutes is sound asleep. I read that taking your Newborn for a ride might help with sleep. Silence mother is drifting off.

The ride home was without events, upon arrival fight with the baby seat, help mother and daughter into our home. Me, back to car and unload all that stuff we took to the hospital we never used.

Unpack everything and find mother and daughter cuddled up on our bed sound asleep. An exhausting event for all.

Our First Baby | First 6 weeks home together

Our first Baby, we survived the pregnancy, numerous regular doctor visits, ultra sounds (do you want to know the sex of your Baby), the first heart beat we heard, the classes we took in order to become educated parents, then the delivery, and home we go all three of us. After nine months of waiting, with some fears and worries.

We made it. Our First Baby | First 6 weeks home together

Mom is exhausted, I am what? For some the First 6 weeks home together of having your first child is even a greater education, challenge, then all the books, websites, doctors advice read and reviewed for 9 months. All of that appeared to be a waste of time once our little girl arrived home.

The babies room was all setup, safe toys, best crib, bottles, breast pump, diaper bin, diapers, wipes for those smelly first Diaper changes, bathing table, and on and on and on. We were totally prepared. Well we thought so??

We quickly realized that sleep for us not the baby was not to be something we had any for the first 6 weeks. Breast feeding was one challenge, as our little girl while in mother was very active at night. Now out in the real world her schedule remained that of a night owl.

Breast feeding at first for mother and daughter was a game of play with Moms’ breasts, and sometimes not so much feeding. Mom’s breasts hurt as milk flowed in and Baby played. The breast pump was also kind of like this strange device. Store the milk, warm the milk to the right temperature. All for not our little girl likes Mom’s breast, not this bottle thing. At first.

Our First Baby

Our First Baby | First 6 weeks home together

The Babies room for the most part was abandoned during the first long nights and weeks. Feed her and she would roll over and fall asleep in our bed. Which also allowed us those fleeting few hours of rest during the evenings. Then the fear of “we will roll over on her” did not help at first.

We were told all about getting your baby on a routine will help. Acclimating her to days not nights. Easier said then done.

Our First Baby | First 6 weeks home together

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