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Baby is coming

Baby is coming!!! Best news I heard all day, they are waiting for us in the delivery room.

This was it, weeks leading up to this point I have been flooded with emotions, nervousness and anticipation of how he would make his grand entrance. My perfect delivery plan was not going to happen.

Thought okay, I am doing this without my husband, I needed our son to be healthy and in order to do that he needed out now. I immediately got prepped for a C-section. I could not be more excited and ready for someone to cut me open.

My husband must have gone through every red light, stop signs to make it there before he was born. I remember someone grabbing my hand while they were prepping me, saying I am here honey and everything will be okay.

Fast forward a few minutes, my sweet little boy was here.  First thoughts, oh god please make sure he is okay, then we thought he is so small. Weighted in at 4lbs, god was he breathtaking.

My husband and I got a quick peak then he was taken to the NICU. I spent hours in the recovery room waiting to see this little person that I had spent the last few weeks of hours talking to, signing to, crying and begging him to stay in there longer so he could grew every day.

It was time we could see him. The first image of him with tubes, wires in what we called his little condo was heart breaking. I wanted to hold him, kiss him but all we could do was hold his hand

  • Shortly after I was sent back to my room I sent my husband home to be with our oldest son. Then the emotional sadness set in of feeling my body betrayed me, how could this happen, what complications will he have. My head, my heart was overwhelmed.
  • This was excessively much for me to process. Then this overwhelming feeling of I don’t even know how to explain it, sickness, sadness, pressure to be strong because everyone would be watching me expecting me to be so fragile. Who knew this feeling would be how I felt everyday for the next three months.
  • Following day, slept for maybe three hours I wanted to get down to the NICU ASAP to see this miracle child but I wasn’t able to go by myself. Now I have to wait for others to be free for me to see my baby, perfect one more thing to push me over the edge. The free time I spent waiting to be wheeled downstairs a horrible feeling of realizing I will be leaving tomorrow without my baby.
  • This was something I never thought about; again, this was not my delivery plan. I had only seen or heard of this on Lifetime Movie network this couldn’t be happening to me. I remember crying in my wheelchair at the elevator when the nurse finally came to bring me to see our baby.

First sight, first touch Speechless…

To be continued…..

 

You may have heard that a man treats his wife the way he treats his mother

You may have heard that a man treats his wife the way he treats his mother. If that is true, you may in trouble.To say that my son is very demanding is putting it lightly. Breakfast, lunch, dinner snack served when he wants it and no other time will do.

This was our first glimpse into his anger issues. If his food is not presented to him as soon as he demands it, he goes from 0 to 60 in a millisecond. The whole night kicking, screaming, and crying. However, it is not just the food.

Like you, I imagined so many sweet moments cuddling together with my baby. Back bending, head butting, feet thrusting, exorcism instead of the sweet little coo and cuddle I am looking for. Think it is sweet when he runs his fingers through your hair? Watch out, it is his game. He will grab a fistful and yank until it in his hand. Then he will laugh and laugh.

Moreover, forget about earrings and necklaces that might require a plastic surgeon.

Then there is the sleep problem. Is sleeping in your thing, alternatively, sleeping in general? Not anymore. He will keep you up demanding something different every moment, and then fall asleep at 6 a.m.

You are wrong if you think he does not wake up every two hours to do it all over again. Think again, it will spasmodically happen for months. Just when you think, the coast is clear you may actually string together 4-5 hours of sleep, SCREAM. I think he thrives off your sleep-deprived demeanor. It strengthens him as he drains every bit of your energy.

I am hopeful that things improve with time because his silly giggles, twinkly looks, and belly laughs is definitely the highlight of my day. Sometimes he wants to hold my hand, so hold it often. When he is sad, I sing him a song, hold him close, and help him calm down.

One day this will be your job and with you in mind, I am doing my best to raise a good man.

All the best,

Mom

Bump, not a baby bump..

BUMP, not a baby bump..I will get to that.

At five plus months pregnant I was feeling great; not much weight gain, still in regular clothes, skin looking good…

Who knew it would shortly be over…

I was enjoying breakfast with my friends because that’s what stay-at-home moms do. (which is probably why we can’t get anything done. “I am so busy!!!”

Yeah, busy enjoying coffee with my girlfriends.

Breakfast was great of course. It’s the only time you can eat eggs, pancakes, bacon AND home fries and not feel any guilt.

After breakfast we headed to the car where we continue to sit for another hour chatting.

Here comes out friend Barreling in – two hours late for breakfast. She’s on the phone as usual and

BUMP

Bump

Bump

She hits the side of the car we are in.!! Let me remind you, she hit out PARKED car. Goes to show how little our friend was paying attention.

Have you ever had a friend that just always has her head in the clouds? Let’s just say it’s something like that.

At first we all laughed because seriously, how dumb can you be to hit a car while trying to pull into a parking spot?

What is she 15 years old?

As I was laughing, I said OMG I have to go, I think I just wet my pants from laughing so hard. (Another thing pregos ladies are allowed to get away with)

I was still giggling about this hours later.

I wasn’t laughing the next morning

It’s clear, my water broke.

At first thought I peed again but it didn’t stop. After my third pair of pants, I called my mom.

What’s the first thing we do when things go wrong?

Call Mom.

It was really mom who convinced me my water broke. I said “no way, I am not even six months pregnant.”

I called my doctor, and, of course he said to go to the nearest hospital,

Sounds like you are in labor”.

Labor?

WHAT??

No, this is not happening.

Then the panic. The things that were rushing through my head,

The baby is too small, it can’t be healthy for him to come today! The room is not done and I haven’t shaved yet.

I yelled to my husband,

We’ve got to go!”

As I explained to him what was happening I began to lose it.

I cried!

Oh man, did I cry.

My husband was very calm but I know it was killing him inside. He knew of all the complications that could happen to me and the baby.

We arrived at the hospital, but the Dr. didn’t want to check me to increase the delivery but he did Say.

Yup you are delivering today but not here! We need to transfer you to a hospital where they can handle such an early delivery.”

A short ride to the hospital, which felt like hours, I played all the scenarios in my head, thinking this poor baby! He is going to suffer because my friend is a dumb ass.

I could not have asked for a better team of people to meet that day.

Nurses, doctors, students etc. They all reassured me that its going to be OK.

Your water broke but we can keep him in there until he shows signs of stress or you start laboring on your own.”

What a relief.

Now the reality, the sad news. In order for this to happen

I am not going home until this little man arrives.

Bump

Bump

This was my first test as a mom of two.

I knew my other son would be heartbroken without me home.

I put him to sleep, do his morning routines, get him ready for school etc.

Let’s be honest, all goes to hell when moms aren’t around.

I was so conflicted. I secretly wanted to stay at the hospital as long as I could so this baby had more time to mature and grow. But I would so miss my son.

I got settled into my room; which was a very nice private room with a view! I was like a college kid again. (less all the partying this time around)

I became very close with the staff; they were great. My family brought them candy, pizza, anything to make them happy.

It doesn’t hurt to grease the wheel a bit.

I knew the shift changes, and their routine (one nurse I became close with gave me the low-down on who was coming and going)

Some were great, others. not so much. She warned me about not going into labor with certain staff because they just aren’t the best; not exactly on their toes in fast paced situations.

(As if I could control)

I remember thinking each day; one more day to a healthier baby and if he could stay in two more days we are closer to lungs being full term.

Fast-forward three weeks.

Yes, in the hospital for three weeks!

What I thought was gas, wasn’t. After hours walking the hospital floor to try to move the gas along I realized its not going away.

I tried to convinced myself it was the grilled cheese and French fries I had for dinner.

I was warned, “tonight is not the night , the staff was iffy.

Guess what?

What’s one more thing to go wrong.

Back to my gas- I mentioned it to my nurse .

She said. “Well nothing showed up on the monitors so must not be happening.”

True, the monitors showed no contractions but I knew something wasn’t right.

Finally the Dr. came in to check on me and said I had developed an infection and this baby needed to come out now.

Right NOW!

No pain meds were able to help relieve the pain. It was like a full-blown exorcism.

The pain was unbearable.

This baby was coming still very early but I knew I was in the best place for it to happen.

I remember telling them

Cut my clothes off” and not take the time to change me to get ready for the emergency room!

Cut my jewelry off” vs. trying to unhitch the clasp. Just make this happen. Now!

The nurse was Oh, So SLOWWWW.

I had no time for this.

Sitting there, in full blown labor (that morphine didn’t even touch) just waiting for the call to tell us to come on down, the room is ready.

Come on!”, I said, “ let’s go” Get me to the elevator so when they call we are there.

NO GO!

Fine”, I said, “You don’t want to go?, then I’Il walk to the elevator”

Still, no go.

Finally, the doctor came in.

OK, I am ready, but we are just waiting for your husband”.

Um, No, we don’t have to! I am good to go right now”

I knew we lived thirty minutes away. Of course, I didn’t want him to miss the birth of his second child. BUT, sorry I was over ruling this decision.

To Be continued…..

Newborn Training Certification

Newborn Training and Certification. Boston Newborn Courses for Care Providers this course is taught through Boston Newborn Care/Newborn Training and Certification Association LLC., and is taught during the day. A Newborn Care Specialist (Night Nanny, Baby Nurse, Maternity Nurse) is someone who specializes in newborn care. Newborn Care Specialists assist parents in the home the first few weeks or months of a baby’s life. Predominantly an overnight position, Boston Newborn Care offers training and support for the daytime as well.

The old way of parenting works

The old way of parenting works. Every couple of years another book or article arrives talking about parents with spinelessness or lack of understanding how to raise a child in 2018.  Raising a child today is far more complicated than in the past years. Seeing a 3 year old spending hours on a smartphone has become a known trend or thinking of some Parents.

Saying NO is not the answer.

I feel I am a good Father having raised two amazing Daughters. From day one my wife and I took the advice of others about raising and carrying for our Daughters. What we found worked in those early months was what I call Acclimation to our new lives together.

Our Daughters went everywhere with us. Shopping, plane trips, restaurants and road trips.  Our Daughters were never those screaming children in a Restaurant, we all learned together. Or that child grabbing and demanding something cute at a checkout.

Children are gifts, in our fast paced world we live in today we need to take time in the first months of changing our habits and the speed we live in.

Spending real quality time with your Baby will reward all involved with a quality of life we can never go back to change or replace.  When you’re Daughters Graduate from College and the first thing they do is WhatsApp pictures to friends. Before us as Parents we have the Graduation hug.

Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child aside from the biological relationship.

Described by Baumrind as the “just right” style, it combines a medium level demands on the child and a medium level responsiveness from the parents. Authoritative parents rely on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment. Parents are more aware of a child’s feelings and capabilities and support the development of a child’s autonomy within reasonable limits.

Parenting skills are the guiding forces of a “good parent” to lead a child into a healthy adult, they influence on development, maintenance, and cessation of children’s negative and positive behaviors. Parenting takes a lot of skill and patience and is constant work and growth. The cognitive potential, social skills, and behavioral functioning a child acquires during the early years are fundamentally dependent on the quality of their interactions with their parents.

Does my Newborn need a flu shot this year?

Does my Newborn need a flu shot this year?. Flu season is an annually recurring time period characterized by the prevalence of outbreaks of Influenza (flu). The season occurs during the cold half of the year in each hemisphere. Influenza activity can sometimes be predicted and even tracked geographically. While the beginning of major flu activity in each season varies by location, in any specific location these minor epidemics usually take about 3 weeks to peak, and another 3 weeks to significantly diminish.

Research done by National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) in 2008 found that the influenza virus has a “butter-like coating”. The coating melts when it enters the respiratory tract. In the winter, the coating becomes a hardened shell; therefore, it can survive in the cold weather similar to a spore. In the summer, the coating melts before the virus reaches the respiratory tract.

Does my Newborn need a flu shot this year?

Does my Newborn need a flu shot this year?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends a yearly flu (influenza) vaccine for all children 6 months and older — ideally given as soon as the vaccine is available each year. This year only the flu shot is recommended. While there is a Food and Drug Administration (FDA)-approved nasal spray vaccine that consists of a low dose of live but weakened flu virus, the CDC recommends against using nasal spray flu vaccinations because the spray has been relatively ineffective in recent flu seasons.

Flu shots can be given to children 6 months and older. Side effects might include soreness, redness or swelling where the shot was given, low-grade fever, or muscle aches.

To determine how many doses of flu vaccine your child needs:

  • 2 doses. If your child is younger than age 9 years and is getting the flu shot for the first time or has only had one flu shot in total prior to July 1, 2017, plan for two flu shots given at least four weeks apart. Begin the process as early as possible.
  • 1 dose. If your child has had two or more flu shots at any time before July 1, 2017 — the two shots need not have been given during the same season or consecutive seasons — one shot is enough. Likewise, if your child gets the flu shot for the first time at age 9 years or older, one flu shot is enough.

Keep in mind that it takes up to two weeks after vaccination for a child to be fully protected from the flu. Consult your child’s doctor if you have questions about flu protection. Also check with your child’s doctor if:

  • Your child isn’t feeling well. Talk to your child’s doctor about your child’s symptoms.
  • Your child is allergic to eggs. Most types of flu vaccines contain a small amount of egg protein. If your child has an egg allergy, he or she can receive the flu shot without any additional precautions. If your child has a severe egg allergy, he or she should be vaccinated in a medical setting and be supervised by a doctor who is able to recognize and manage severe allergic conditions.
  • Your child had a severe reaction to a previous flu vaccine. The flu vaccine isn’t recommended for anyone who had a severe reaction to a previous flu vaccine. Check with your child’s doctor first, though. Some reactions might not be related to the vaccine.

The Affordable Care Act states, every mother will be given a free breast pump by their insurance company

The Affordable Care Act states, every mother will be given a free breast pump by their insurance company. All mothers are offered a breast pump. There are a variety of different pumps and they all work anywhere from just okay to awesome.

Boston Newborn Care has partnered with Healthy Baby Essentials and will personally provide the order form and hand deliver the pump to clients. No need to call insurance companies, Healthy Baby Essentials will process the rental quickly and painlessly.

The first breast pump with 2-Phase Expression® technology which is proven to achieve faster milk ejection and faster milk flow.* More efficient and comfortable. Unique overflow protection. Double or single pumping. One knob control. Whisper quiet operation. Easy-to-clean. Compatible with Preemie+ technology (Preemie+ Card sold separately).

Featuring the original 2-Phase Expression® technology – found only in Medela breast pumps.

Babies breastfeed in 2 phases:
1. Stimulation Phase – when babies first go to breast, they suck fast and light to start milk flowing.

2. Expression Phase – after milk flow or “let-down” starts, babies breastfeed with a slower, deeper suck, bringing out more milk faster.

Boston Newborn Care is experienced in stetting it up and coaching through the whole process. We’ll give you a schedule and help you with snacks to eat and what to avoid. We provide a tried and true storage tips and tricks and help moms continue to increase their supply to meet the growing babies needs.

With the 100s of clients I have counseled and supported I first listen then I offer a suggestion. Have you considered renting the hospital grade pump. The Medela Symphony perhaps? From my experience the hospital grade pump will yield up to 30% more milk at each pumping session.

So many new moms these days agonize over the whole breastfeeding experience. It begins way before the baby is even born. Whenever I ask a new client if they are going to breastfeed, 100% of the time the answer is “I’m going to try”

So those early days and nights with new moms are always stressful. The latch and the moms’ milk supply is the only thing talked about followed by the questions. “Is the baby hungry?” “ Should I try a different hold? Do I need a different pillow?“ Should I sit in another chair?” It’s an ongoing list of possible reasons why it isn’t going great. Do I need a nipple shield? Will there be nipple confusion? Does my baby have a tongue tie? Tears and frustration are the emotion instead of happiness and contentment.

Finally, it starts to come together. Then after 2 weeks the mom is ready to pump. Adding another task to their day, throughout the day is daunting. It’s far more frustrating when they do hook up to the breast pump the yield is minimal.

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Our First Baby | Our First Day Home Together.

Our First Baby | Our First Day Home Together. 9 months of planning, reading, on-line, baby classes, delivery and that first car ride together. None of this planning had prepared us for our first day home alone.

We arrived safely and daughter and mother fell asleep on our bed.

We have a large extended family, all visited our new daughter at the Hospital. Upon arrival at home the phone started ringing and within a few hours we had, Grand Mothers both sides, Mothers and Fathers both sides, Aunts and Uncles who all decided they should come and help us out. They brought food and gifts and wanted to hold the Baby.

I felt like our daughter was being passed around like a sack of Potatoes from one relative to another.

The advise started from the woman for my wife, breast feeding the Grand Mothers, not so sure about that. Breast pumps how to use them, make sure your breasts are stimulated before you try breast feeding. One relative compared this event to how cows are milked. You have to stimulate your breasts. Okay my wife, her breasts are engorged with with milk and any conversation on this topics resulted in her milk coming down.

The men in our Family, a lot of suggestions for me as the new Father. You have heard it all, this is a big responsibility financially, have you started a college fund, was one? Please. Are you planning any more children? Well to be honest this was a surprise baby. Not a bad thing. Planning another, we just got home.

My wife had planned to take 9 weeks off work. One of our relatives is a therapist. Oh you need more time off work. The first two years of your child’s life needs to be with the mother. This sets the foundation for your child’s growth and social development. Separation from mother will cause stress for the Baby once you go back to work. We have that covered we have a Nanny.

The idea of us having a Nanny care for our Daughter threw the entire family into a fit. You are going to leave your Daughter with a stranger? Please don’t get me wrong, we love our entire Family and for them this was a Family event filled with love and kindness. It was time for them to leave, early evening, the three of us are exhausted.

Now we are ready for that first night alone?

Our First Baby | The Ride Home From The Hospital

Time passes and my wife is back in her room and the time has come for Father to take our Daughter from the delivery room to be with mom. The next day it was time for the three of us to head home.

Many thanks to all the nurses and staff, my wife is doing remarkable after having a cesarean section, sore and tired she rides the wheel chair with baby in arms as we leave the hospital.

Our First Baby | The Ride Home From The Hospital was like most events for new parents another experience no matter how well you have prepared for it, you are ready perhaps not prepared for dealing with the bay car seat.

I had practiced dealing with this baby car seat, making sure it was facing the right direction, was it attached correctly, check the seat belt 3 times. All this training and practice, okay for sure this is different now having to place the new love of your life in a car seat. Done we are off.

With Mom and Daughter safely secured in the back seat of our car we headed the 11 miles to our home. Funny how having a baby in your car changes your driving habits, a little slower, looking out for on coming cars, and yes my lovely wife offering a lot of back seat driving suggestions.

Our daughter within a few minutes is sound asleep. I read that taking your Newborn for a ride might help with sleep. Silence mother is drifting off.

The ride home was without events, upon arrival fight with the baby seat, help mother and daughter into our home. Me, back to car and unload all that stuff we took to the hospital we never used.

Unpack everything and find mother and daughter cuddled up on our bed sound asleep. An exhausting event for all.

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