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Dedicated to Beautiful Women

Dedicated to Beautiful Women Watch her eyes

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“A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?” “Because I’m a woman,” she told him.

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“I don’t understand,” he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”

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Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”

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“All women cry for no reason,” was his entire dad could say.

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The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry…

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Finally, he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, “God, why do women cry so easily?”

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God said

“When I made the woman she had to be special.

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I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

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I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

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I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

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I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.

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I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

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Finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.”

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“You see my son,” said God, “the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

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The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”

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Please send this to ten beautiful women you know today. If you do, – You will boost another woman’s self-esteem. I am also waiting

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Pass it on to men too – perhaps they will then understand “why women cry….

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Dedicated to beautiful women.

Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in the months of March or May. It complements similar celebrations honoring family members, such as Father’s Day, Siblings Day, and Grandparents Day.

Mother's Day

Mother’s Day

Anna Marie Jarvis (May 1, 1864 – November 24, 1948) was the founder of the Mother’s Day holiday in the United States. Her mother had frequently expressed a desire for the establishment of such a holiday, and after her mother’s death, Jarvis led the movement for the commemoration.

Ann Reeves Jarvis was a social activist, founder of Mothers’ Day Work Clubs. As a woman defined by her faith, she was very active within the Andrews Methodist Episcopal Church community. It was during one of her Sunday school lessons in 1876 that her daughter, Anna Jarvis, allegedly found her inspiration for Mother’s Day, as Ann closed her lesson with a prayer, stating:

I hope and pray that someone, sometime, will found a memorial mothers day commemorating her for the matchless service she renders to humanity in every field of life. She is entitled to it.

— Ann Reeves Jarvis

However, as the years passed, Jarvis grew disenchanted with the growing commercialization of the observation (she herself did not profit from the day) and even attempted to have Mother’s Day rescinded. She died in a sanitarium, her medical bills paid by people in the floral and greeting card industries.

I hate all of the commercialization behind the day that celebrates moms; imagine how Anna Jarvis would feel now. The holiday’s founder worked so hard to get the world to give moms everywhere a day of recognition. Before her death, even she had to admit she had some regrets about starting Mother’s Day.

 

I hate the term “Empowering Women.”

I hate the term “Empowering Women.” Empowering Women has become the term used when you offer a woman a job or an opportunity. In many cases more of a marketing term to place on a website or in blog posts or Facebook rant. What were we doing before this term now overused and without meaning grabbed the spotlight?

Women’s Empowerment Principles:

Empowering women to participate fully in economic life across all sectors is essential to build stronger economies, achieve internationally agreed goals for development and sustainability, and improve the quality of life for women, men, families, and communities.

How does this work if you are attempting to Empowering Women, where do you start?

In Guatemala, I have a great friend, supporter of Boston Newborn Care and our work. In turn, I admire James Dillon’s work in Guatemala, he never uses the term Empowering Women, and Enabling is his preferred means to express his work with Ethical Fashion Guatemala.

 

Empowering Women

Empowering Women

James works mostly Mayan Women Weaving Artisans, in the remote Highlands of Guatemala. The textiles are all handmade dyed from plant seeds, natural cotton, and handspun into works of textile art. The weavers lacked access to technology; he enabled the women to have access to websites, banking, and shipping.

Resulting in economic improvement, products sold internationally and sustainability for the weavers and other forms of Artisan works. Prior local Tourists were the customers, often bartering for a $20 scarf that took a week to weaver.

 

Empowering Women

Empowering Women

James stresses the fact that Ethical Fashion Guatemala is a business, not a None Profit seeking donations or a project. Artisans need work and sales, not donations.

Two years ago, James life in Guatemala changed, Fashionista wrote an article about how from Guatemala James forced ETSY, the on-line handcraft portal to remove thousands of Copyright works of Artisans from their website. The story went Viral.

Think about James story next time you see a sign or website about Empowering Women. I am today thinking how can I Enable more women??

My Babies Bum and Diaper Rash

Diaper Rash, Newborn parents find the first few weeks challenging, being accustomed to your baby, sleepless nights, breast-feeding and for some Diaper Rash. Seeing your Babies bottom ablaze in fiery color and pain all a mother seeks it to find relief for your Newborns suffering.

There are seven home remedies for diaper rash from diarrhea, yeast infection and other common triggers. Breast milk helps, if you are breastfeeding, if not the remedies include apple cider vinegar, olive oil, cornstarch, and browned flour.

I prefer to stay away from chemical based creams and lotion; one never knows what the hidden ingredients on the label may hold, many natural products may have side effects. The fact Microplastics found in almost everything we put on our body, including toothpaste.

Remember our skin is the largest organ on our body and what we put on it and our Babies bum will be absorbed.

 

I found in of all places Guatemala a natural product for Diaper Rash called “Baby Butter.”

Diaper Rash

 

On the shores of Lake Atitlan Guatemala, I found Geno Veva is a 35-year-old Guatemalan who gave up her career as an engineer five years ago to start a family and to take a break from the high tech world.

Her focus develop pure natural products based on Coconut, Coffee, Cacao, Avocado, Macadamia, and the vast supply of local herbs the Mayan culture have used for hundreds of years for natural medicines.

 

Diaper Rash

Geno working at home

Geno has real world experience with Diaper rash, stretch marks, her five-year-old daughter Love proves her products work as many of her products based on her experience as a mother. Geno continues to develop new products, natural deodorant for woman prone to breath cancer, soaps oil and lotions.

 

Diaper Rash

Geno Creams

I like the idea of supporting Geno through the blogs I write and my interest in natural products. Each products is handmade, extracting natural oils from plants. You can find her on Facebook.

https://www.facebook.com/Atitlanherbals/. She ships her products worldwide, offers workshops and classes.

 

Newborn Development Babies

Newborn development babies. During their time in the womb, babies hear, feel, and even smell their mothers, so it’s not hard to believe that they’re attached right from birth. But as any adoptive parent will tell you, biology is only part of the love story. Young babies bond emotionally with people who give them regular care and affection.

A pregnant woman’s thoughts are the precursor for her emotions. … Hundreds of studies have confirmed that chemicals released by the pregnant mother’s body are transported into the womb and affect the unborn baby.” Negative thoughts are often the root cause of a fear-based stress response.

Your baby will recognize your scent within days of birth. Researchers have found that 3-day-old infants are able to discriminate their mom’s milk from someone else’s by its smell. And not only does your baby know your scent, he loves it too. … You’re my mommy!'”

Newborn development babies Week 1: Blurry View. In her first week, Baby can only see objects about 8-12 inches in front of her face. This is about the distance from her face to yours while feeding. Babies generally hold their gaze for only a few seconds.

A 1-week-old, a baby will spend most of the day sleeping. In fact, during the first week of life, a typical newborn baby will sleep for 16-18 hours every 24 hours. … Until then, your days and nights might feel a little mixed up during this first week.

Between birth and three months, your baby may start to: Smile. Early on, it will be just to herself. But within three months, she’ll be smiling in response to your smiles and trying to get you to smile back at her.

Newborn development babies first 3 months of life are by far the hardest for any parent. … The first milestone comes at six weeks, when baby smiles properly for the first time. But it is the three-month mark most new parents wait for anxiously – especially if they have a colicky, difficult baby.

So here are our tops tips for moms with newborn babies, from the mouth of real moms!

  1. Don’t Hush-A-Bye-Baby.
  2. Soothe Your Wailing Newborn.
  3. Help Get Your Baby to Latch.
  4. Get Prepped.
  5. Keeping Your Baby Awake During Feedings.
  6. Help Your Baby Bond with Dad.
  7. Crib Comfort.
  8. Sleep Trick.

Boston Newborn Care for Parents, offers a 3-hour course for new parents. Newborn Care Course for Parents is offered in Community College Throughout New England. The class is limited to 5 couples. New England Newborn Care has chosen a comfortable space for new parents to spend the 3 hours environment for parents to be.

Newborns and Measles

Newborns and Measles

https://www.vox.com/2019/1/27/18199514/measles-outbreak-2018-clark-county-washington

Newborns and Measles

Measles is wildly contagious and during an outbreak, it can spread, especially to older infants who aren’t vaccinated yet. … Over 95% of babies who get the shot at 12 months of age are protected against measles and over 99% are protected for a lifetime after the 2nd dose (given at least 1 month later).

Measles is an airborne disease which spreads easily through the coughs and sneezes of infected people. It may also be spread through contact with saliva or nasal secretions. Nine out of ten people who are not immune and share living space with an infected person will be infected . People are infectious to others from four days before to four days after the start of the rash. Most people do not get the disease more than once. Testing for the measles virus in suspected cases is important for public health efforts

Infants, of course, are not supposed to get the MMR vaccine until they’re at least 12 months old, so they’re at a higher risk of contracting the disease. Here is how you can best protect your baby from measles.

A child should receive the first shot when he or she is between 1215 months, and the second when he’s between 46 years of age. If you’re not sure if you have had the diseases or the vaccines (prior to 1971 it was given in three separate shots), you can get the MMR vaccine as an adult

Measles can be dangerous, especially for babies and young children. From 2001-2013, 28% of children younger than 5 years old who had measles had to be treated in the hospital. For some children, measles can lead to: Pneumonia (a serious lung infection).

Breast milk also contains antibodies, which means that babies who are breastfed have passive immunity for longer. … Passive immunity to measles, mumps and rubella can last for up to a year, which is why the MMR vaccine is given just after your baby’s first birthday.

Koplik Spots. Mouth of a patient with Koplik spots, an early sign of measles infection. Three to five days after symptoms begin, a rash breaks out. It usually begins as flat red spots that appear on the face at the hairline and spread downward to the neck, trunk, arms, legs, and feet.

The rash usually lasts for three to five days and then fades away. In uncomplicated cases, people who get measles start to recover as soon as the rash appears and feel back to normal in about two to three weeks. But up to 40 percent of patients have complications from the virus.

 

The New Normal…

The New Normal… I could finally see him, this little boy who had such a rough start into this crazy world. Who knew trips to the NICU, days, nights, weeks would be the new normal for us.

Not being able to hold this miracle baby or just touch him thru the glass window while he was getting warmed under the lights was hard.  This is not what I expected, seeing him struggling to breath, feeding tubes, cloth over his eyes while he received light treatment for jaundice.

As a mom, no matter what age your kids are l, you always want to hold, smell and snuggle them as often as you can. This baby was a miracle to us in every way.  The years of infertility, constant letdowns of IVF treatments not working and now, just hours old and having to face new battles.

You do a lot of soul searching when you feel the lowest of low; you are always asking yourself, “Why”?, “How come”?, “What did I do to deserve this”?.

When I finally got to hold him for a brief moment, I forgot all the guilt I was carrying and felt complete joy, love and I knew this little boy was going to be my precious gift from above.

My husband and older son had finally arrived for their first visit and the joy on my oldest sons face was just pure love. He was do happy to see this little boy he also had prayed for.

While dad and my number one son got to hold him, it set in with me that was going home tomorrow and this baby was not coming with me.

The doctors came in later that evening to explain all of the battles he was facing.   I am didn’t hear anything but “he will be home for a few months”.

My heart sank, my heart broke, i was sick to my stomach. Who knew the next few months would be the new normal for us.

All of my time would be spent at the NICU. The New Normal…

Baby is coming

Baby is coming!!! Best news I heard all day, they are waiting for us in the delivery room.

This was it, weeks leading up to this point I have been flooded with emotions, nervousness and anticipation of how he would make his grand entrance. My perfect delivery plan was not going to happen.

Thought okay, I am doing this without my husband, I needed our son to be healthy and in order to do that he needed out now. I immediately got prepped for a C-section. I could not be more excited and ready for someone to cut me open.

My husband must have gone through every red light, stop signs to make it there before he was born. I remember someone grabbing my hand while they were prepping me, saying I am here honey and everything will be okay.

Fast forward a few minutes, my sweet little boy was here.  First thoughts, oh god please make sure he is okay, then we thought he is so small. Weighted in at 4lbs, god was he breathtaking.

My husband and I got a quick peak then he was taken to the NICU. I spent hours in the recovery room waiting to see this little person that I had spent the last few weeks of hours talking to, signing to, crying and begging him to stay in there longer so he could grew every day.

It was time we could see him. The first image of him with tubes, wires in what we called his little condo was heart breaking. I wanted to hold him, kiss him but all we could do was hold his hand

  • Shortly after I was sent back to my room I sent my husband home to be with our oldest son. Then the emotional sadness set in of feeling my body betrayed me, how could this happen, what complications will he have. My head, my heart was overwhelmed.
  • This was excessively much for me to process. Then this overwhelming feeling of I don’t even know how to explain it, sickness, sadness, pressure to be strong because everyone would be watching me expecting me to be so fragile. Who knew this feeling would be how I felt everyday for the next three months.
  • Following day, slept for maybe three hours I wanted to get down to the NICU ASAP to see this miracle child but I wasn’t able to go by myself. Now I have to wait for others to be free for me to see my baby, perfect one more thing to push me over the edge. The free time I spent waiting to be wheeled downstairs a horrible feeling of realizing I will be leaving tomorrow without my baby.
  • This was something I never thought about; again, this was not my delivery plan. I had only seen or heard of this on Lifetime Movie network this couldn’t be happening to me. I remember crying in my wheelchair at the elevator when the nurse finally came to bring me to see our baby.

First sight, first touch Speechless…

To be continued…..

 

You may have heard that a man treats his wife the way he treats his mother

You may have heard that a man treats his wife the way he treats his mother. If that is true, you may in trouble.To say that my son is very demanding is putting it lightly. Breakfast, lunch, dinner snack served when he wants it and no other time will do.

This was our first glimpse into his anger issues. If his food is not presented to him as soon as he demands it, he goes from 0 to 60 in a millisecond. The whole night kicking, screaming, and crying. However, it is not just the food.

Like you, I imagined so many sweet moments cuddling together with my baby. Back bending, head butting, feet thrusting, exorcism instead of the sweet little coo and cuddle I am looking for. Think it is sweet when he runs his fingers through your hair? Watch out, it is his game. He will grab a fistful and yank until it in his hand. Then he will laugh and laugh.

Moreover, forget about earrings and necklaces that might require a plastic surgeon.

Then there is the sleep problem. Is sleeping in your thing, alternatively, sleeping in general? Not anymore. He will keep you up demanding something different every moment, and then fall asleep at 6 a.m.

You are wrong if you think he does not wake up every two hours to do it all over again. Think again, it will spasmodically happen for months. Just when you think, the coast is clear you may actually string together 4-5 hours of sleep, SCREAM. I think he thrives off your sleep-deprived demeanor. It strengthens him as he drains every bit of your energy.

I am hopeful that things improve with time because his silly giggles, twinkly looks, and belly laughs is definitely the highlight of my day. Sometimes he wants to hold my hand, so hold it often. When he is sad, I sing him a song, hold him close, and help him calm down.

One day this will be your job and with you in mind, I am doing my best to raise a good man.

All the best,

Mom

Bump, not a baby bump..

BUMP, not a baby bump..I will get to that.

At five plus months pregnant I was feeling great; not much weight gain, still in regular clothes, skin looking good…

Who knew it would shortly be over…

I was enjoying breakfast with my friends because that’s what stay-at-home moms do. (which is probably why we can’t get anything done. “I am so busy!!!”

Yeah, busy enjoying coffee with my girlfriends.

Breakfast was great of course. It’s the only time you can eat eggs, pancakes, bacon AND home fries and not feel any guilt.

After breakfast we headed to the car where we continue to sit for another hour chatting.

Here comes out friend Barreling in – two hours late for breakfast. She’s on the phone as usual and

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She hits the side of the car we are in.!! Let me remind you, she hit out PARKED car. Goes to show how little our friend was paying attention.

Have you ever had a friend that just always has her head in the clouds? Let’s just say it’s something like that.

At first we all laughed because seriously, how dumb can you be to hit a car while trying to pull into a parking spot?

What is she 15 years old?

As I was laughing, I said OMG I have to go, I think I just wet my pants from laughing so hard. (Another thing pregos ladies are allowed to get away with)

I was still giggling about this hours later.

I wasn’t laughing the next morning

It’s clear, my water broke.

At first thought I peed again but it didn’t stop. After my third pair of pants, I called my mom.

What’s the first thing we do when things go wrong?

Call Mom.

It was really mom who convinced me my water broke. I said “no way, I am not even six months pregnant.”

I called my doctor, and, of course he said to go to the nearest hospital,

Sounds like you are in labor”.

Labor?

WHAT??

No, this is not happening.

Then the panic. The things that were rushing through my head,

The baby is too small, it can’t be healthy for him to come today! The room is not done and I haven’t shaved yet.

I yelled to my husband,

We’ve got to go!”

As I explained to him what was happening I began to lose it.

I cried!

Oh man, did I cry.

My husband was very calm but I know it was killing him inside. He knew of all the complications that could happen to me and the baby.

We arrived at the hospital, but the Dr. didn’t want to check me to increase the delivery but he did Say.

Yup you are delivering today but not here! We need to transfer you to a hospital where they can handle such an early delivery.”

A short ride to the hospital, which felt like hours, I played all the scenarios in my head, thinking this poor baby! He is going to suffer because my friend is a dumb ass.

I could not have asked for a better team of people to meet that day.

Nurses, doctors, students etc. They all reassured me that its going to be OK.

Your water broke but we can keep him in there until he shows signs of stress or you start laboring on your own.”

What a relief.

Now the reality, the sad news. In order for this to happen

I am not going home until this little man arrives.

Bump

Bump

This was my first test as a mom of two.

I knew my other son would be heartbroken without me home.

I put him to sleep, do his morning routines, get him ready for school etc.

Let’s be honest, all goes to hell when moms aren’t around.

I was so conflicted. I secretly wanted to stay at the hospital as long as I could so this baby had more time to mature and grow. But I would so miss my son.

I got settled into my room; which was a very nice private room with a view! I was like a college kid again. (less all the partying this time around)

I became very close with the staff; they were great. My family brought them candy, pizza, anything to make them happy.

It doesn’t hurt to grease the wheel a bit.

I knew the shift changes, and their routine (one nurse I became close with gave me the low-down on who was coming and going)

Some were great, others. not so much. She warned me about not going into labor with certain staff because they just aren’t the best; not exactly on their toes in fast paced situations.

(As if I could control)

I remember thinking each day; one more day to a healthier baby and if he could stay in two more days we are closer to lungs being full term.

Fast-forward three weeks.

Yes, in the hospital for three weeks!

What I thought was gas, wasn’t. After hours walking the hospital floor to try to move the gas along I realized its not going away.

I tried to convinced myself it was the grilled cheese and French fries I had for dinner.

I was warned, “tonight is not the night , the staff was iffy.

Guess what?

What’s one more thing to go wrong.

Back to my gas- I mentioned it to my nurse .

She said. “Well nothing showed up on the monitors so must not be happening.”

True, the monitors showed no contractions but I knew something wasn’t right.

Finally the Dr. came in to check on me and said I had developed an infection and this baby needed to come out now.

Right NOW!

No pain meds were able to help relieve the pain. It was like a full-blown exorcism.

The pain was unbearable.

This baby was coming still very early but I knew I was in the best place for it to happen.

I remember telling them

Cut my clothes off” and not take the time to change me to get ready for the emergency room!

Cut my jewelry off” vs. trying to unhitch the clasp. Just make this happen. Now!

The nurse was Oh, So SLOWWWW.

I had no time for this.

Sitting there, in full blown labor (that morphine didn’t even touch) just waiting for the call to tell us to come on down, the room is ready.

Come on!”, I said, “ let’s go” Get me to the elevator so when they call we are there.

NO GO!

Fine”, I said, “You don’t want to go?, then I’Il walk to the elevator”

Still, no go.

Finally, the doctor came in.

OK, I am ready, but we are just waiting for your husband”.

Um, No, we don’t have to! I am good to go right now”

I knew we lived thirty minutes away. Of course, I didn’t want him to miss the birth of his second child. BUT, sorry I was over ruling this decision.

To Be continued…..