Our First Baby | Our First Day Home Together. 9 months of planning, reading, on-line, baby classes, delivery and that first car ride together. None of this planning had prepared us for our first day home alone.
We arrived safely and daughter and mother fell asleep on our bed.
We have a large extended family, all visited our new daughter at the Hospital. Upon arrival at home the phone started ringing and within a few hours we had, Grand Mothers both sides, Mothers and Fathers both sides, Aunts and Uncles who all decided they should come and help us out. They brought food and gifts and wanted to hold the Baby.
I felt like our daughter was being passed around like a sack of Potatoes from one relative to another.
The advise started from the woman for my wife, breast feeding the Grand Mothers, not so sure about that. Breast pumps how to use them, make sure your breasts are stimulated before you try breast feeding. One relative compared this event to how cows are milked. You have to stimulate your breasts. Okay my wife, her breasts are engorged with with milk and any conversation on this topics resulted in her milk coming down.
The men in our Family, a lot of suggestions for me as the new Father. You have heard it all, this is a big responsibility financially, have you started a college fund, was one? Please. Are you planning any more children? Well to be honest this was a surprise baby. Not a bad thing. Planning another, we just got home.
My wife had planned to take 9 weeks off work. One of our relatives is a therapist. Oh you need more time off work. The first two years of your child’s life needs to be with the mother. This sets the foundation for your child’s growth and social development. Separation from mother will cause stress for the Baby once you go back to work. We have that covered we have a Nanny.
The idea of us having a Nanny care for our Daughter threw the entire family into a fit. You are going to leave your Daughter with a stranger? Please don’t get me wrong, we love our entire Family and for them this was a Family event filled with love and kindness. It was time for them to leave, early evening, the three of us are exhausted.
Now we are ready for that first night alone?