All Babies are Babies even Babies with Special Needs.
When expecting a baby; being pregnant, anticipating an adoption or a surrogate, all of us experience bouts of anxiety. Will the baby be OK, will I be a good parent, will the delivery be easy, and can I handle this. SHOULD I BE DOING THIS?
We can all borrow trouble, bringing us down and robbing us of the awesome experience of becoming a parent. It’s amazing to hold that baby in your arms, to kiss him/her for the first time. The amount of love you feel is something you had no idea you could feel. Once this happens all of your worries start to seep away. All that matters is the love you have for this baby.
All Babies are Babies even Babies with Special Needs. They all need to have nutrition, sleep and to grow. Regardless of whatever issues may have presented itself either in prenatal testing or upon birth. Some of the issues may be serious, scary and sad. But all babies need to eat, nap and grow.
A good care provider, great support and positive vibes is so important regardless of the journey the baby may be facing. Sure, there may be different protocols, different methods and variations to a routine, but that’s the fact with everyone. All babies with the same diagnosis have differences; all babies who don’t appear to have any issues have variations to the norm. It’s a basic plan that has to be adjusted to fit the individual needs to the specific child.
Moms of 2-3 kids can attest that what worked like a charm for baby #1 didn’t work at all with subsequent children.
Letting go of what you can’t control is a tough concept. Placing blame or pinpointing why can consume parents of babies with special needs. Being positive, happy and strong can be impossible at first. It will come. Certainly there is the initial disappointment, anger and sadness. Once the grieving period has passed parents then focus on what is positive. A group of happy energetic supporters is essential in the quest for contentment.
We’ve all read stories from parents with babies with issues. There is so much hype on the struggles, the therapies and the worry about their future. Society may pity the family; they may feel sorry that the child may not walk, hear, see or go to the local preschool, may not every be an athlete and be able to be mainstreamed.
Seems that the focus is on the negative aspects with the dialogue being on family disruption and stress. The trend seems to be overstating the negatives and overlooking the positives. Sure, there will be challenges but new studies have shown that with good support, families can be as vibrant and happy as families without disabled children.
Many parents, in fact, feel their families have been blessed because of their special child. They say they’re closer and have become more compassionate, and understanding of those with lesser abilities. They learn to be more tolerant, now have the opportunity to teach their other children the importance of being sympathetic, flexible, and selfless.
Ever hear a parent say that their special needs child is a gift? How that baby that needs therapy is the best thing that happened to their family? There’s a reason for this.
All Babies are Babies even Babies with Special Needs. They come in all different shapes and sizes and abilities. Each being an incredible gift.